Things to Avoid in a New Jersey Divorce

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When you get a divorce, especially if you are the one who was wronged, it is all too easy to let your emotions get the best of you. However, no matter what happens, no matter the circumstances of your divorce, the most important thing you can do is stay calm, collected, and keep a level head. Not only will this help you make clearer, less emotionally-charged decisions, but it is also the best form of payback. Your spouse may be spiteful, underhanded, or downright mean, however, you must not stoop down to that level.

Those who act rationally in divorces very often have the best outcome. While there are blogs and articles all over that tell you what to do in a divorce, or how to prepare for a divorce, below, you will find information regarding what not to do in a divorce to help ensure things go your way. Please read on to learn more.

Can my ex use text messages, emails, or social media accounts as evidence in divorce court?

Yes, your ex can use all messages, posts, or any other form of digital records as evidence! Never, ever send your ex nasty or angry texts–even if he or she deserves it! If brought in front of a judge, they may be interpreted as a threat, which will seldom work in your favor. Additionally, it is always best to avoid posting either about your former spouse or a new relationship until your divorce is finalized. Posting about your spouse seldom goes over well, and the courts may view your new relationship with scrutiny as a potential affair, even if you started dating long after you moved out.

Can I hide money in a divorce?

This is one of the worst things you can do. If you get caught, and there is a very good chance you will, you may lose all you hid, and then some. Even if you were simply protecting what’s yours from a potentially dangerous or sneaky spouse, the courts tend to look down on that sort of underhandedness. Additionally, while on the subject of money, you should never, ever post any recent purchases or vacations on social media, especially if you are requesting your spouse pay alimony or child support–for obvious reasons. If you can, avoid social media altogether until your divorce is finalized.

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At Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark, our attorneys have extensive experience helping clients to understand and protect their legal rights before, during, and after the divorce process in towns across New Jersey and Bergen County, including Hackensack, Ridgewood, Paramus, Teaneck, and Fort Lee.

To speak with our team of divorce lawyers today in a free and confidential consultation regarding your concerns about moving out of your marital home during your divorce, please contact us online, or through our Hackensack, NJ office at (201) 397-1750.

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