What Should You Not Do When Getting a Divorce?

If you are about to get a divorce, or you are already in the process of getting one, there are several things you should do, and there are several things you shouldn’t do. Today, our experienced New Jersey divorce attorneys have provided you with a list of some of the many things you absolutely should not do in the months during or after your divorce takes place. They are as follows:

  • Never hide or store money. This is true even if you believe that your spouse may do the same, and you are just trying to beat the dishonest person to the punch. If you do anything even remotely out-of-the-ordinary with your money, there is a very good chance your spouse, and the court may view what was simply a preventative measure as a dishonest and underhanded act, which can negatively impact the outcome of your divorce.
  • Stay away from social media, at all costs. This works on two levels: first, you should never badmouth your spouse on social media–even if he or she is in the wrong. Oftentimes, courts will view this as petty, and it will seldom work in your favor. Additionally, you should not post vacations, new purchases, and more, while undergoing a divorce, especially if you are requesting child support or alimony payments. In many circumstances, your spouse will say that you do not need those payments if you can afford such purchases.
  • Do not involve your kids any more than necessary. Though your kids are affected, your divorce is your business. Do not badmouth your spouse to your children–this always causes far more harm than good. Remember–children are the true victim in divorce, so you must do everything in your power to mitigate its effects on your children.
  • Do not put off adjusting your estate plan after divorce. Let’s say you get divorced, then a month later a freak accident happens, you pass, and your estate plan hasn’t been updated since your divorce. Do you want all your assets going back to your spouse whom you can’t stand? Probably not. Update your estate plan immediately after divorcing to avoid these unwanted, sticky situations.
  • Do not get involved in new relationships until your divorce is finalized, and if you do, ensure you keep them on the down-low. Oftentimes, these relationships can be used as evidence of infidelity, even if that is simply not the case.

Contact our experienced Bergen County firm

At Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark, our attorneys have extensive experience helping clients to understand and protect their legal rights before, during, and after the divorce process in towns across New Jersey and Bergen County, including Hackensack, Ridgewood, Paramus, Teaneck, and Fort Lee. To speak with our team of divorce lawyers today in a free and confidential consultation regarding your concerns about your divorce, please contact us online, or through our Hackensack, NJ office at (201) 397-1750.

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